The Fearless Factor | Overcome Fear Now

Last night I had the pleasure of hearing Wayne Dyer speak in NYC. His latest book Excuses Begone was the title of the event, but it was more than just about excuses.

I have always admired Wayne for his wisdom and his ability to tell stories that are deeply felt from the heart and last night was a truly heartfelt experience. He spoke at length about his early life and especially his father, who walked out on him and his two brothers and his mother when he was four, and how he never came back. And while he spent the greater part of his early life hating his father, who was a deeply disturbed human being, he told the story of how he came to forgiveness and moved beyond the blame. He talked about divine intervention and he spoke about his latest challenge as he confronts leukemia. Throughout it all, he spoke with the power of conviction that no matter what happens, he is at peace with all of it. It would be my privilege to emulate such grace.

He said he has been called the Father of Motivation, but he prefers the title Inspiration, and I would agree. He has inspired me to be the teacher I am today, and he has inspired me to remove fear and bring love, forgiveness and compassion into my life. It is people like Wayne Dyer who have helped me overcome the many challenges of my own life. His book The Power of Intention was a seminal work as I set my compass in the direction of teaching people about how to overcome fear so they can create greater confidence and truly become the person they were meant to be.

I believe that the power of intention and the ability to move beyond the pain of the past by showing compassion for the all-too-human people who raised us, and to forgive them has been critical to my success in life. My father didn’t abandon his family by removing himself from the house, but he did so my being physically abusive and emotionally abusive because he himself was a deeply flawed individual who had incredible self-loathing. Yes, we do inherit the sins of the fathers.

But hating our family is only an excuse to avoid the pain. We can’t go through life blaming circumstances or people for why it doesn’t work. You are 100% responsible for our own life, like it or not. There are no more excuses if you’re going to be honest. We can’t say it was so and so’s fault I’m the way I am. You are making a choice to be that way. You can change whatever it is you feel is getting in the way. I could speak for hours about the power of this, and do in my workshops and seminars, but in this short time we have here consider this.

Have you made choices throughout your life? Have you grown up believing certain things are true, and found them not to be? Even when you feel you’re not making a choice, you are. All fear is is about making a choice or decision to move beyond it or not. So where do you stand on this. Are you creating the life you want and deserve? And if not, why not?

From “Excuses Begone”, here are some of the excuses we frequently use and the affirmations to use with them:

It Will Be Difficult:

I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.

It’s Going to Be Risky:

Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live it fearlessly. (like this one)

It Will Take A Long Time: I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny

There Will Be Family Drama:

I would rather be loathed for who I am than loved for who I am not.

I Don’t Deserve It:

I am a Divine creation, a piece of God. Therefore I cannot be undeserving.

I Can’t Afford It:

I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance