What’s Love Got To Do With It?

Fearlessly Speaking

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Published February 14, 2010 | By Jacqueline

I would guess everyone is seeing RED today.

Hearts, flowers, ballons, bears, chocolates, spa treatments, candlelight dinners, champagne, wine…..it’s the tradition. It’s also a billion dollar business which is keeping everyone happy, right?

Well, I hate to burst the balloons, but the warm fuzzy feeling doesn’t last more than 24 hours for many people, and it may not even get started for others. Then it’s back to the same old, same old wondering where the good stuff went. That usually means arguing, criticizing, judging, complaining, whining, not getting what you want, not feeling seen or recognized. The list goes on.

So….. What’s Love Got To Do With It? as Tina Turner once sang. She should know. She had her fill of abuse and love in all the wrong places.

So today, on Valentine’s Day, I like to talk about the relationship between Love and Fear. Essentially, they are two sides of the same coin.

When we are fear, we are in doubt. We don’t trust ourselves, our circumstances or the people in our lives. We can’t quite figure out how to get ourselves out of the fear of loss, rejection and failure groove, so we continue in relationships that should have been over a long time ago, or we’re in relationships that we cling to in the hopes that it will finally deliver what we want, if only we knew what that was!!

Does this sound familiar?

I like to say that we must learn how to love ourselves so that others can love us more. But it’s the loving ourselves part that is the hardest for many of my clients and the people I meet.

What is self-love?

Learning how to accept your strengths and your weaknesses, holding your head confidently to say this is who I am and I’m okay with that. Not searching for that perfect someone who will make you whole and settling for less, because you know what it feels like to be whole.

You know what it feels like to know you are not perfect, and are okay with that. You know what it feels like to approach another person with no agenda except to embrace and love them as much as you can because it feels good, not because you’re looking for something to fill you up.

You know what love is, because it started with you.

Finding love in the right places is about looking inward first. Learn how to love yourself and others will love you more because…..