The only constant is change, continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be.
— Isaac Asimov

The only guarantee in life is change. Without it nothing grows. Without it we have a world without color, without texture, without life.

Many people tell me they are afraid of change. I say that change is easy, but it’s the process you have to go through that puts you off.

In order to change, you have to let go of the obstacles that have held you back from living how you want to live, being who you want to be, and doing what you want to do. We stay in jobs we don’t like because they offer ‘security’, relationships that are harmful to our mental health because we’re afraid of being alone, habits that are detrimental to our well-being, and living life as a series of ‘settling for less’ instead of having the courage to change things.

What about change is challenging? Many people tell me they are afraid of what they will find. Perhaps all the negative BS that fills their head is true. Maybe they really are ‘stupid’, ‘useless’, ‘uncaring’ ‘worthless’ ‘unlovable’ or ‘undeserving’. Self-worth is a problem for so many people because they’ve been led to believe that they hold no value in life.

Holding ourselves in high esteem, with respect and honor is the ultimate tribute to life and is the key to a life of fulfillment and happiness.

When we trust that we will handle whatever comes our way, we can relax in the present (the gift) knowing that the future will take care of itself when it arrives.

Change is easy once you make up your mind that you’re ready and willing to show up for yourself and then take action to move forward.

4 Steps to Change

1. Listen to what your gut is telling you. If you feel things are uncomfortable, then it’s time to change something.  Your heart knows before your head that you’re ready for change.
2. Take small baby steps.  You can’t eat the whole elephant otherwise you’ll choke. Change is a process of small incremental steps, but most of all, it’s consistency.
3. It takes 21 days to change a habit.  Be gentle with yourself but stay focused and committed to your actions.
4. Develop compassion for your changes.  Approach it with love and you will soon find that change is easy.